Recipe for a Happy Marriage: Poems and Inspiration for Lifelong Love

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What is the recipe for a happy marriage? Here are a few versions of the happy marriage poem, though as every happily married couple can confirm, the true joy and success of any marriage, is in creating your own spicy recipe!

Marriage therapist and author, Ron Deal, shared a variation of the following inspirational poem, written by his late grandmother Lorrain.  The poem was subsequently printed in evangelist Jim Daly’s book, Marriage Done Right, though countless variations of the poem now exist. Lorrain and her preacher husband Homer were happily married for fifty-two years.

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The Recipe for a Happy Marriage


  • 1 cup of consideration
  • 1 cup of courtesy
  • 2 cups of flattery carefully concealed
  • 2 cups of milk of human kindness
  • 1 gallon of faith and trust in each other
  • 2 cups of praise
  • 1 small pinch of in-laws
  • 1 reasonable budget
  • 1 cup of contentment
  • A generous dash of cooperation
  • 1 cup each of confidence and encouragement
  • 1 large or several small hobbies
  • 1 cup of blindness to the other’s faults


Flavor with frequent portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories.
Stir well and remove any specks of jealousy, temper or criticism.
Sweeten well with generous portions of love and keep warm with a steady flame of devotion.

Click here to download a printable pdf of The Recipe for a Happy Marriage.

Here are a few more variations of the poem, Recipe for a Happy Marriage:

The Recipe of Love Poem

The recipe of love must always include
Some herbs and spices for fortitude;

  • A tablespoon of forgiveness
  • A clove of loyalty
  • A cup of faith And a sprig of honesty
  • A pinch of patience
  • A teaspoon of trust
  • A cup of friendship And a bit of lust

Mix all these herbs and spices well,
Then sauté the whole in two cups of respect.

The Recipe for Happy Marriage – Version #2

  • Combine two caring hearts
  • Melt into one
  • Add a lot of love
  • Mix well with respect, and trust
  • Add gentleness, laughter, faith, hope, and joy
  • Pour in lots of understanding (Don’t forget patience)
  • Sprinkle with kisses, and a dash of hugs
  • Bake for a life time

Yield: One Happy Couple

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Need More Inspiration to Write Your Own Marriage Poem?

Holiday couple, Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward, were happily married for fifty-years. Their wedding vows were written by American author, Wilfred A. Peterson, who published nine books starting in 1949 with The Art of Getting Along: Inspiration for Triumphant Daily Living.

For over half a century, The Art of Marriage has stood the test of time, and is reportedly one of the most frequently read wedding poems, providing one of the greatest tributes to successful matrimony. It embraces the sentiments to which any marriage aspires, and conveys the blessings for a lifetime of love.

Click here to download a pdf printable of The Art of Marriage Printable.

The Art of Marriage Poem

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things…

It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the crowd.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding
and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

— Wilfred A. Peterson